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Your relationship ended, one of you moved out, you won’t talk to each other anymore, your world has unraveled and the thoughts wandering in your mind are endless. What should you do?

Moving on can be a lot of work. The never ending reminders creep up on us almost hourly so here are a few suggestions on what you can do to make the pain a little more bearable:

1. Call old friends: It may be a difficult step to take, especially if you haven’t kept in contact with certain friends throughout your relationship. However, give it a shot because in the end a true friend will understand and want to help.

2. Get out of the house: One of the worst things you can do is keep yourself holed up. Go shopping, take a walk, join that gym you wanted to join a while back. Just make sure you get out and socialize a bit. Contact with others, even those we don’t know, can go a long way in easing your emotional situation.

3. Restructure your time: Rather then watching the same tv shows or eating at the same time, restructure your time. If you can, watch your show on demand or catch a rerun. Take time out to read at your normal eating time. Just make sure not to do the same things you use to do at the same time you use to do them while you were with your partner. Take up volunteer work – that will definitely make the most use of your time and you will probably meet some great new people.

4. Talk it out: No more “hug it out” when things go wrong. Talk to those close to you about what has happened and how you feel. No one expects you to walk around like a wall of stone – if you did, people would probably be very worried. You are going through a traumatic situation and sometimes the best way to accept what has occurred is to talk about it.

5. Invest in something: Breakup’s can be devastating on the bank account. Rather then spending a thousand dollars shopping pick up the financial section of your newspaper, or hit the financial websites online, and see what investment you can make with that thousand.

6. Contact a therapist: If after everything you have done to try to get over your breakup doesn’t seem to work, contact a therapist. Talking to, and obtaining advice from, someone objective may be what you need to successfully move on.

Lastly, don’t worry. You are not alone in your breakup because your previous partner is going through the same thing. And where there is the two of you, there are dozens of other people going through a similar situation at the very same moment you are.